Little update and sorry i haven’t wrote

Hi my lovely readers, i am sorry i haven’t been around for a few weeks.

I am thinking i’ll be able to get it across in poetry form

and i am feeling a bit creative so here it is…

My head said write, my heart said no.

I am sad to write my friend had to go.

I know hes now not suffering and finally out of pain,

the truth of the matter is he’ll never been seen again.

Its not fair how quick he got ill,

and seeing him the week before he died, saddens me still.

He will always be remembered in a funny smiley way,

those memories will stay with me and never go away.

When you lose a dear friend someone who you can depend

your friendship lives on, in both your hearts, and will never ever end.

Blog posts will resume Monday…much love xxx


Absolutely everybody gets a down day even the most happiest of people.

Nothing is wrong with looking for advice on how to find that smile again…I’ve done it myself in the past.

So I made this list back along in my journal and until now I didn’t think about sharing it with you.

  1. Grab a DVD (preferably a comedy) some snacks, a blanket and dim the lights.
  2. Light a scented candle, add some bubbles and jump in the tub.
  3. Make yourself an uplifting playlist of songs that make you smile for days when you need to turn to it.
  4. Phone a friend and arrange to meet up- tell them to bring laughter.
  5. Go shopping whether in town or online it is the best sort of therapy.
  6. Draw or write whichever you think your better at and let yourself get super creative.
  7. Go put on an item of clothing that brings you joy, in your fav colour preferably.
  8. Make your favourite meal / snack and really enjoy all the flavours
  9. Go for a walk, feel the fresh air hit your face and take in all the beautiful views you see.
  10. Give a hug to someone it’s so heartwarming and leaves you with that happy fuzzy feeling. You could be cheering up someone else in the process.

I hope my list helps in some way and if you ever feel sad know that I’m only a twitter message away.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

H x

A little more about me

In my first post here I wrote about the writer side of me and said I would touch on the pinkaholic side of me too at some point that’s where I got the blog name ‘Words of a pinkaholic ‘ from.

The first time I watched Legally blonde and saw Elle Woods all dressed in pink I was obsessed from then on. How pink made her feel I felt it too. Apart from she was just playing her part in a film. It was real life happiness for me.

When I heard the quote on another one of my favourite films of my teen years ‘On Wednesdays we wear pink’ I was like it doesn’t have to be a Wednesday to wear it bit loved the concept their clique had.

When I’m buying something I must own up that I do have a look if it comes in pink first before looking for it in another colour.

People who know me know me for my love of pink and being girly. I mean I’m not overpowering with it. For instance today I am wearing a black and white polka-dot dress with a pink Alice band.

Here’s a song to end today off with from the very talented Pink…

In my next post I’m gonna write all about the things that’s made me happy this July

Hope you’ve had a lovely week so far, I have but its been sooo hot here in England , too hot to enjoy it properly.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

H x

Do you feel that?

Put your hand on your chest

Do you feel that beat…the beat of your heart going boom boom boom.

This beat let’s you know that

  • You are still alive
  • You feel anxious
  • You are getting excited
  • You are in love

Three out of the four are really good things and one gives you the heads up when you’re not so good.

Next time you feel your heart beating… just observe and be mindful of it.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

H x


It’s the small habits…

How you spend your mornings…

How you talk to yourself…

What you read…

What you watch…

Who you share your energy with…

Who has access to you…

That will change your life

Thank you for stopping by…

Til Next time

H x

35 lessons in 35 years

I’m now at the ripe age of 35…I thought it would be good to tell you some things I have learnt in those years that I think are lessons for life and can apply to anyone of any age too.

Feel free to take note of these on paper or your phone

Ok so let’s jump right in

1. Take a deep breath it calms the mind

2. Nobody is perfect

3. Time stops for no-one

4. Never judge someone by face value

5. Take life one step at a time, don’t rush it.

6. Older people have valuable advice…that’s why they get called wise owls

7. Never feel pressured, stand your ground

8. Memories are so very precious, go make them

9. Sometimes it’s worth risking it for a chocolate biscuit

10. Always be proud of who you are

11. Cluttered rooms means cluttered minds

12. Be the friend you’d like to have

13. The first person you fall in love with should always be yourself

14. Life isn’t fair, but it can still be good

15. Budgeting your money will help you in the long run

16. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice

17. Document…so you can look back at a later date and reflect

18. Say yes more

19. Spend time with your loved ones…share the love

20. Don’t lose that bit of your inner child

21. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok

22. You are not defined by a number

23. Finding out what love and heartbreak feels like and learn from it

24. Thoughts are powerful so make them positive

25. Nobody has their shit together 100% of the time

26. It’s never too late to learn a new skill

27. It’s best to have a handful of great friends than lots of half ass friends

28. Take time for you

29. Don’t ever try to fit in, you were born to stand out

30. Use your creativity and run with it as far as it will go

31. Remember how fortunate you are

32. Life is not a goal it’s a journey

33. Laughter is the best medicine / therapy

34. It’s ok to let go and move on.

35. If it’s not ok it’s not the end

I have so many lessons that I literally would be here all day typing away. Please know that in life you need to have picked up things along the way that makes you think yes that makes so much sense, and then apply them accordingly.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

H x

73 Questions Vogue inspired

Most of you will be familiar with Vogue’s 73 questions they ask the most influential people. Here is a playlist of some of them VOGUE 73 QUESTIONS

So here is my take on it. The answers are kept short and sweet so you don’t get bored.

1.What’s the best thing that happened to you this month? I got into an outfit i’ve not been able to get into for over a year.

2. What is something you’re tired of? All the doom and gloom on the news.

3. What is something that recently moved you? I am a bit of a wettie so anything can make me tear up. My mum and auntie are the same. Probably seeing my poorly Dad, he has Dementia.

4. If you could teach one subject in school what would it be? Definitely sex education / personal development. Didn’t learn enough of it when i was at school.

5. What’s your favourite beverage? Hot Chocolate – Options salted caramel, it’s delicious.

6. What’s your favourite cocktail? Not really a cocktail girl, i reckon a woo woo if i had to have one Vodka, peach shnapps and cranberry juice.

7. What is your favourite birthday cake? Victoria sponge, jam and cream are just mmm and icing. Actually used to prefer the icing to the cake when i was younger.

8.What is one thing you still have from your childhood? The passion to write

9. What is your favourite movie? Bridget Jones Diary followed closely by Burlesque. I can relate to Bridget being in my 30s and single and Burlesque it’s something to do thats on my bucket list.

10. What is something you can’t do? Whistle outwards. can do it beautifully inwards

11. What is one habit you wish you could break? Eating cheese. I really really like it.

12. What makes you laugh no matter what? Miriam Margoyles. Google her.. shes hilarious.

13. What does creativity mean to you? Finding inspiration and running with it, using whatever form of creativity you can whether its singing, dancing, acting, writing or art.

14. What are your favourite lyrics of all time? Don’t stop me now i’m having such a good time i don’t wanna stop at all

15. What is something you’ve always wanted to try but you’ve been too scared to do? Go on a plane. I think it’s just the oh i can’t get out when i want.

16. Best advice for your 19 year old self? Don’t try to fit in with others it’s better to be different and stand out.

17. If you could raid one woman’s closet who would it be? Kelly Osbournes. She has a really quirky style

18. Must have item in your bag? Sunnies. I suffer with watery eyes if the sun or wind hits me. Don’t want my make up to run

19. What did you want to do with your life at age 12? Be a singer or an author. I can’t sing too well these days but writing comes easy to me

20. What is something you will not be doing in ten years? Worrying about the opinions of others. it’s something we all do.

21. What is an important life lesson for someone to learn? A true friend stand the test of time and distance.

22. What is one goal you are determined to achieve in your lifetime? To find someone who will love me forever and never let me go.

23. Would you ever live anywhere besides where you live? Maybe but i wouldn’t want to be too far from my family. They mean the world to me.

24. What is your favourite dessert? Oooo cheesecake of any flavour

25. Is there a dessert you don’t like? Carrot cake

26. It’s brunch! What do you eat? I hold out for lunchtime

27. Who is your favourite painter? Picasso

28. Favourite Disney animal? Baloo, his deep voice and his wicked dancing

29. What is a book you are planning on reading? Zero Negativity by Ant Middleton

30. What did you read most recently? Sex, lies and chocolate cake by Steven Morris

31. Favourite solo artist? Dua Lipa

32. What’s your Favourite board game? Monopoly

33. What’s a city you wish to visit? Rome, it looks so romantic

34. Heels or flats? Flats, i can only walk in wedges. Stilettos are not my friend.

35.  Where does one go on a perfect road trip? Somewhere that’s picturesque and that has food there too

36. What do you do on a rainy day? Grab a blanket, hot water bottle, junk food and watch Netflix

37. What’s your favourite exercise? Squatting

38. What was your worst subject in school? Maths. I am still shockingly shite at it.

39. What is your spirit animal? A leopard

40. What do you usually eat for breakfast? Oats so simple or poached egg on toast

41. What do you usually eat for dinner? Fish or meat with veg

42. Cooking or Baking? I like a bit of both. Baking is trial and error, some are Michelin star and some are 1 star. ha ha.

43. Favourite baked good? Blueberry muffins

44. What is something you wish you could be good at? Playing a musical instrument maybe

45. Skiing or Surfing? Surfing but i’d be more in the water than on the board

46. First celebrity crush? Chesney Hawkes and my first single i bought.

47. Most recent celebrity crush? Roman Kemp, his Dads nice too (Martin Kemp from Spandeu Ballet)

48. What colour was your prom dress? It was yellow and white. I felt like a princess for the night.

49. How do you manage stress? Listening to guided meditation

50. What do you do to relax? Put the fairy lights on, a face pack and a film

51. Age when you were first kissed? 7, most of my neighbours were boys wanting to play kiss chase and i couldn’t run fast enough.

52. Place you were first kissed? Nowhere romantic. The back alley way by my house.

53. Favourite fashion trend of all time? The 90s… Coloured corded flares and boob tubes. Cringe but fun times.

54. Best fashion advice you’ve ever received? Never wear a shell suit again. i loved mine but looking back they were sooo dangerous, they were flammable.

55. Trend you would like to see disappear forever? Crocs for sure

56. Shoes or Bags? That’s tricky but i think i have more bags than shoes.

57. How do you know if you’re in love? You have that butterfly feeling, your heart skips a beat and you act so giddy around them. Nothing else matters when you are in their presence. All your worries fade away.

58. Television show you’ve binged on recently? Gogglebox and First Dates

59. Who do you turn to when you’re sad? My Mum, always guaranteed to put a smile on my face.

60. Name one thing you’ve learned the hard way? Money doesn’t grow on trees and to appreciate what you have.

61. If you could make a documentary about anything what would it be? About Bullying after being brutally beaten myself

62. What is your Kryptonite? A silver fox or blue eyes

63. What are you most enchanted by? The moon and all its phases

64. What is your biggest strength? My voice. I am a little chatterbox

65. What is your biggest weakness? Amazon…i get easily persuaded by it.

66. What are 3 words to describe living in your town? Tourists, Cliquey, Rural

67. Cutest thing on planet earth? Little lambs

68. Most important advice you’d give your future children? Never judge a book by its cover.

69. Best first date idea? A romantic park picnic would make me happy.

70. Favourite type of flower? Gerbera Daisy

71. What do you first notice about someone when you meet them? The friendliness in their eyes and smile.

72. What’s your guilty pleasure? Sausage…and chips from the chip shop

73. Plans for the weekend? Watching the football final

Feel free to copy and paste and give it a go i found it interesting and therapeutic.

Have a fab weekend

Til next time

H x


For years i did this and it made me feel like i was a nobody i really didn’t feel like i was seen as someone special.

I hid myself, away from all the things i wanted to do, from all the opportunities, because i didn’t feel pretty or worthy of being loved. So in turn because of that i didn’t think others would want to appreciate me as a person,

How wrong was i?

Yes i had acne until my early 20s which at school got me beat up but in reality i shoudn’t let this dictate my days. i should be getting out there living this life i have been given. So with supportive people around me i found the courage.

The courage to work within the general public, where i was serving people every day, interacting and having people looking straight at me. As my confidence grew i put myself forward for jobs i had always wanted to do. It felt like a weight had been lifted

I lost the best part of my teenage years and the start of my 20s because i was so insecure. Fast forward 10 years i am a totally different person. The camera is my friend and i would rather be seen and heard than to shy away.



This is quite a fun little exercise to do and I had this in my notes section on my phone then I could add ones in and post it when I had the full alphabet.

So the aim of it is to be kind to yourself when using the descriptive words to describe yourself. It’s not that hard you just need to think a bit.

Here is what I came up with for me

I’d love to see some of you give this a go

Also i am new on this blog so woud love some new blogs to follow and to find likeminded people. So feel free to leave your blog address below.

Thanks for stopping by,

til next time

H x


Sometimes you need to change things in order to be a happier you. If things aren’t feeling the way you envisioned then you know what you got to do…if you don’t here’s some points to take note of

  • More rest
  • More self love
  • More letting go of what was
  • More time for learning
  • More space for transformation
  • More time developing good habits
  • More courage to try new practices
  • More time cultivating your inner peace
  • More faith in yourself and the process

I myself have made plenty of changes over the last 6 months of 2021 and it feels so good

Don’t feel pressured to change by anyone else. Do it for you and you alone.

This is a glimpse of the things I will be including in my blog posts amongst personal bits and pieces. I’m a positive person and I love to help others too.

Til next time

H x